I read online a few days ago about a girl whose mom dragged to school with scorpion stuck in her shoe. Also, it was reported in my children school that a child came to school with weevil infested cereal. Thank God the school staff was attentive and careful. Really, who should we blame for this carelessness? Parents or domestic staff? What will it cost parents to pay a little attention to the domestic staff that is taking care of their children? I am sure we’ve heard numerous cases about domestic staff kidnaping, molesting and defiling children. Whether we believe some of these stories or not, care must be taken so that our children don’t fall victims.
I understand that working hard is inevitable to make ends meet but paying a little attention to the domestic staff you have engaged to take care of your children in your absence is more important. Supervising what is packed for your child won’t hurt your busy schedule as your child falling sick and getting admitted in the hospital would. It is not that all domestic staff deliberately set out to harm children, but some, due to their ignorance, fear, or incompetence, they hurt children. Unintended harm remains harmful to children’s well-being irrespective. Therefore, we must be extremely careful.
In countries where people have embraced DIY, working parents have fashioned ways to cope with all the activities they need to do despite being gainfully employed. The fact that we are able to afford the ‘luxury’ of domestic staff does not relieve us of our parental duties. I heard a story long time ago about working parents whose child slept at the proprietress’ house because the driver picked up two children and left the last child in school. The unfortunate part is that they didn’t even know their child didn’t sleep at home because they got back home very late and assumed that the children were in bed. Moreover, the domestic staff didn’t say anything until the irate proprietress called the next day. . .
Secondly, it is wrong to leave the upbringing of our children to our domestic employees whose background we do not know. We hardly run in-depth background checks on domestic staff we bring into our homes. We rely on referrals, and this is dangerous. A friend employed a nanny who had previously worked with her friend for eight years and discovered something her friend never knew. The nanny claimed she has a child, who stayed with her all through the eight years she spent with the first family before she was recommended to the second family. The nanny had already stayed with the second family for four months before they discovered she has two teenagers that she left somewhere and never talked about! The first family found it hard to believe when the second family told them about the two children. Thank God the secret she kept was not something heinous or something that could endanger the children/ the whole family.
The above is an example that we sometimes place our children and confidence in people who should not even be trusted. Just imagine someone that left her own children without ever making a mistake of talking about them once in 8 years 4 months, taking care of another person’s children! The risks of not paying attention to our children now may have far reaching damaging consequences that money may not be able to solve. Let’s be guided, prevention is better than cure.