My brother and I were reminiscing about the naughty things we (including some friends) did while growing up that our parents didn’t know about such as:
- Sliding down the handrail from the first floor to the ground floor without holding the rail.
- Challenging one another to jump from the flight of stairs to the landing (the bar kept going up to be the winner).
- Toppling off bicycles due to inexperience and impatience to learn properly.
- Falling off the swing yet standing.
- Playing soccer on a ‘concrete field’ (we got injured many times but we never stopped)
I remember a friend got pushed on a wooden sled and lost control, he nearly ran down another friend who was struggling to ride his eldest brother’s bicycle.
There were many strange things some of us ate that our parents didn’t even know existed!
My friend’s sister climbed a tree to pluck some oranges; the first thing she beheld upon climbing was a snake waiting at alert . . . you can just imagine the rest.
We had many such experiences growing up. Though most were dangerous, we found them interesting. These experiences molded many of us and gave us the confidence to take bolder steps. Thank God for the gift of lives.
When last did your allow you child or children to take risks?
Nowadays, we keep children cooped up, overprotected and sometimes over pampered. Allowing children explore and deal with the stress/risks of everyday life in school, at the playground and around the house will help them develop better coping tactics for the future.
Don’t be a worrywart, allow your children to unleash their inner strength. Let them play rough – and- tumble, it helps release energy. Try not to intervene regularly when they are having fun climbing, jumping, tumbling, etc., except what they are doing will hurt another person or they are in pain.
Overprotection gives children the impression that the environment is unsafe without you around. When they think like this, they will restrict their activities to their comfort zone. This will in turn affect their self-esteem and prevent them from taking risks because anything that is not familiar becomes unsafe. This may also cause children to be unnecessarily anxious.
Allow your children to enjoy their childhood, let them learn some important physical and social development skills on their own.